So often my clients ask about dating a widower. Is it a red flag? Should I proceed with caution? Is it a losing proposition? And my answer may surprise you:
Dating a Widower: 4 Tips to Make It a Success
Dating a widower can be key to love.
All Rights Reserved. Terms and Conditions of Service. There are all sorts of dating experiences many have in their lifetime—from the rotating door of bachelors and bachelorettes in our 20s to the more mature approach to finding love in our 30s, meeting a partner is no easy task. After all, you or your potential partner invest time, energy and heart into their marriage and their partner was taken too soon from them. Believing that love can happen again for them or for yourself requires strength, bravery and trial-and-error. The spectrum of eligibility is strenuous enough without throwing in a broken heart.
What's a widower to do?
The certificate was laboriously scrawled with an ancient fountain pen, and the registrar solemnly asked me to check the details before signing it. I dragged my eyes through the words, which all seemed to make sense, until the bit about me: Relationship To Deceased; and then there was a word I couldn't make out. It should have said Husband, but I couldn't make the spidery blue marks on the paper form into that. And that was the first time I'd contemplated that word, in relation to me and my new categorisation in the world.
Many complex emotions come with dating a widower. On any given day they can be angry, sad, guilt-ridden, or have an enormous amount of relationship anxiety. Never allowing themselves to become comfortable, you typically have no idea the things that lie underneath their smile. No matter what age you lose your significant other, if your spouse leaves you before you leave this earth, there is always a feeling that something is amiss.