I have a mini-confession to make: I wrote the Tao of Dating books specifically for really smart people. The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, indulged in them as a student. Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes -- only now with fewer single people around who happen to live in the same building and share meals with them every day.
10 Signs You’re A Bad Date
The #1 Habit That Makes You Bad At Dating
Especially while in college, relationships have been on the back burner of my life. Here are some reasons why I think this way. This could be as big as skipping out on an opportunity to study abroad, or as small as canceling plans with someone to do some extra studying. I found that I would rather spend the little free time I have working on myself rather than meeting up with someone I had just met. At this point, I'm not willing to put someone else's needs before my own, and it's just not fair to the other person to be halfway in a relationship.
6 Reasons Why I'm Bad At Dating (But Why It's OK)
Wendy Stokes. Heck, I can barely spell it. Bonus points if you can actually get a sentence out.
Do either of these thoughts sound familiar? When we are starting to see someone we like, we often try to do anything to "crack their code. Ultimately, we probably just want to figure out how to get their attention, and figure out how to get the person we like to like us back. Often, too, the more we like someone, the harder we end up trying.