Maybe you're the type who tends to take off first thing in the morning after a one-night stand, or who lies about your busy schedule in the week ahead, but doesn't indulge your prospective partner with the details. When dating, single people often deploy tactics like these to avoid coming off as clingy or desperate. Playing hard to get, the theory goes, makes you seem far more attractive. It might make you feel sly, but does that carefree attitude actually work to anyone's benefit? For decades, psychologists have been studying if and why playing hard to get can make people attracted to you, and several studies may help explain the psychology behind why we sometimes desire people who make us work harder for their attention. There are many ways to do this, but people playing hard to get most often act confident, talk to others, and withhold sex, according to research published in the European Journal of Personality —all of which "may reflect
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Increase how much he wants you. Want to boost his desire to get to know you? Playing hard to get only works if someone is at least a little bit interested. After all, why work hard for something if you never wanted it to start with? Guys are still surprised when they find an independent woman.
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Your younger self might think ignoring his calls or texts for 2. It is, however, a good idea to not be quite so available all the time, and the best way to do that is to either a be busy or b legitimately not see that he called or texted. I know how much you love your phone.
As someone who wasted too much of my early twenties deliberating when to text back guys who didn't own a bed frame and routinely got "lost" in Starcraft , playing hard to get led me to a series of month-long, barely-committal appetizer relationships that left me constantly unsatisfied. Acting distant — the very thing promised to attract only the most persistent of partners, only led me to date men who could not care less about me. My friend just sent me this screenshot and this is every dude you dated in your twenties pic.